tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6313481328555887161.post238837936462489251..comments2023-06-23T16:59:01.205+03:00Comments on love to [pitesti]: something about being realsarawrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13452412121624532463noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6313481328555887161.post-33385758367420308732009-04-29T22:46:00.000+03:002009-04-29T22:46:00.000+03:00When people ask me what I do, I am much more likel...When people ask me what I do, I am much more likely to tell them I'm unemployed or that I'm "between jobs" or that I'm a freelancer or that I "work from home" -- anything to keep from saying I'm a writer, which still feels a little bit dishonest, even though it's what I so desperately want to be. I still have trouble shaking the perception that you're only a writer when someone is paying you to write. And as a "job," that's true. But being a writer is something very peculiar in that it can be more of a state of mind than a job, and I do think you can be a writer long before you have the job of being a writer. (And I always felt like I would feel validated once I had "been published," but I've found that doesn't really help, because there are a thousand ways to still feel insecure--must be published again, must be published in a larger publication, must be paid more for said material published...)<br /><br />At any rate, I believe in you as a writer in the most ridiculous, embarrassingly sappy way. I really do, and I have from the first time I read your writing. You can go somewhere with this. You are a writer, even if that's not your "job" yet.Erin Seabolt Bondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12233039257580985107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6313481328555887161.post-21373581570265250172009-04-29T19:10:00.000+03:002009-04-29T19:10:00.000+03:00and jfille! that's really cool, i'm glad you found...and jfille! that's really cool, i'm glad you found my blog. it's neat to think someone i haven't harrassed about it or who's been linked from facebook/already knows me is reading it. and oh yes, i am quite a c.s.lewis fan =)<br /><br />and that makes so much sense the way you put it, particularly because i do that--analyze and examine and try to make sense of--before i say much, and i don't think i realized it fully until you put it that way.sarawrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13452412121624532463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6313481328555887161.post-91893202791214856432009-04-29T19:05:00.000+03:002009-04-29T19:05:00.000+03:00erin--for some reason, ''this is such a writer's p...erin--for some reason, ''this is such a writer's problem'' is one of the coolest things i've heard all week. i'm still in that one-day-i'll-be-a-writer state of mind, as opposed to, published or not, i am writing now. <br /><br />and i think you're right about being real being more for ourselves. and it feels the same with writing on here. i do it to share, but ultimately it's for myself. good way to keep from going too crazy =)sarawrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13452412121624532463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6313481328555887161.post-9172388395111686642009-04-28T02:17:00.000+03:002009-04-28T02:17:00.000+03:00Everything you wrote in this post really resonates...Everything you wrote in this post really resonates with me. I definitely do that sharing-personal-stuff-but-still-feeling-distant thing, and I do it by only telling people what's going on inside me after I've already examined and analyzed it. I only let people see snapshots of things that have happened already, never the turmoil at the moment it is going on...<br /><br />p.s. In case you're wondering who the heck I am--I randomly found your blog when I searched for people with xkcd listed as an interest and saw there was someone who also liked C.S. Lewis. :)jfillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17196329082003121004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6313481328555887161.post-9737033293465314262009-04-28T00:52:00.000+03:002009-04-28T00:52:00.000+03:00I think it's a line we draw and then re-draw and t...I think it's a line we draw and then re-draw and then re-draw, and so on. It's the memoir writer in you. In some contexts, you're praised for sharing more-more-more, every graphic detail. But then there are other contexts where you're not sure of the reaction ahead of time. Just because we can share something, doesn't mean we should. And just because we can withhold, doesn't mean we should. This is neither helpful nor particularly coherent, so I apologize. All this to say, I get it. You'll figure it out. You'll draw your line, then completely disregard it one day and either decide the line was fine right where it was, or that it needs to be re-drawn again. This is such a writer's problem to have. :) <br /><br />When we see other people being real, it gives us the courage to follow suit. But at the end of the day, maybe being real and vulnerable is more for the person being real than it is for her readers/audience/etc.Erin Seabolt Bondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12233039257580985107noreply@blogger.com